How not to make yourself crazy

Step 2: Give yourself time

Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Anger. Resentment. Fear. Loss. Feelings are like traffic lights. They are warning signs that we do not ignore. So, let them come. Sit with them. Feel the feelings that rise to the surface. Just because you have the feeling, does not mean you have to act on it. So every day, during this grieving process, find a quiet space and let those feelings rise to the surface. Let them come with no judgment. We all grieve differently. For some, they need to talk it out. So call, whatsapp, text a friend and express the feeling. Post your feelings on your social media pages and engage with those who comment. For others, get a piece of paper or a journal and write it down. For others, doing something helps. So get a skipping rope and jump. Get outside the house and walk it out in your compound. Or even thorough clean and organize a specific room. The point is to give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling and then find a safe outlet for it. Do not rush.

By Catherine M. Ngarachu,
MA HOD Psychology,
Outspan Medical College